The Story Of One Woman's Struggle To Overcome Her Miscarriage

Credit: Sharna Southan

Per year, more than 130 million women give birth to their new born children. The desire to have children is ingrained within the very genes that have passed through thousands of generations up to the point of conception. The opportunity to rear a family however is often skewed with complications, and for Sharna Southan, this was an issue she decided to raise awareness for.

For each birth, approximately 1 in 5 babies are miscarried.

Despite this large number, of all the prevalent issues talked about in our society today, there are millions of women who feel societal awareness about miscarriages hasn't been featured enough.

Not your typical mother

Sharna Southan is now a mother of one, she and her husband own a supermarket together all the while she is teaching herself neurolinguistics - and like all mothers, she works hard to provide for her family.

Before all of this, Sharna was recovering from her pregnancy loss.

Like many women who have miscarried, it is commonly reported that they feel alone, with 68% claiming they have felt no one really cared.

Questioned about herself and her life

In 2017, after a routine check-up at the doctors she received the tragic news that the baby she was raising had no heartbeat.

"After trying for five years and hearing this news it shattered me. I questioned about myself and my life. "

It took her many months to get back to normal. She wanted to take time out and question why this had happened to her. None of this was her fault, but there must have been some other explanation that she was trying to seek out.

Bravery

Five months after her miscarriage Sharna came to the realisation that this was in many ways a blessing in disguise for her. After months of hardship she felt there was no one talking about the issues she had faced.

After such a relentless ordeal that required only bravery, she questioned why this had happened to her, until she asked herself

" What was my miscarriage teaching me? "

Upon reflection, she was able to listen to herself that helped make a big difference to her approaching life from a different perspective. By listening to her feelings she was beginning to understand other people's problems better too because she recognised that having empathy and understanding about a situation as bad as hers helped her understand how other people can experience the same thing.

It comes down to advice

Miscarrying a baby is one of the hardest things that can happen to a woman. But from this tragic event, it can be an opportunity to grow and try to consolidate a clear understanding as to how you can move forward.

One of the most important ways you can seek advice is to simply ask for help from others.

"As a person we don't hold all the answers, so reach out and that will help you get through the dark times"

Sharna's advice is simple yet so important.

There are times in our lives that we question why things happened to us? Unfortunately, we cannot selectively pick what we encounter in life. Instead how we react may be the most important thing to do.

If you are in a tough spot, then try to reach out. It can be a spouse, family member or a mentor.

Whatever the reason, knowing that you're not alone, and support is always available will help allow you to get back to life as normal.

If you're having trouble with anything mentioned in this article, then you can take a look at the this Facebook page ran by Sharna.