4 Steps To Fix Yourself And Follow Your Dreams

The process of loving yourself is a piece-by-piece process. It involves reconnecting with who you are on the inside first and allowing yourself to recognise that the habits that you may percieve as bad need to be changed in order to allow you to improve.

If you're interested in paying attention to following the dreams of your future then take a look at the list below.

How You Can Fix And Begin To Love Yourself Again

1 . Appreciate Yourself Moreoften

If you find it easier to neglect yourself out of a fear of being too self-absorbed, it's important to understand that self-love is nourishing and cherishing, while self-absorption is a form of fantasizing and walling yourself off from other people.

Self-love is a form of recognizing the good things about yourself and making the most of those while still reaching out to other people and being part of community.

Indeed, it is important to love yourself before you can properly love others. On the other hand, a self-absorbed person finds it very hard to reach out to others because it's always about that person and other people threaten the spotlight they constantly crave.

This doesn't mean putting yourself before others; it means trying to be authentic in relevant situations. It doesn't mean being yourself when to do so would harm your prospects of succeeding in life, such as throwing a tantrum, acting outraged because your sensibilities have been offended or refusing to do something when it doesn't suit you.

You need to know when to play by the rules and when to stand up for yourself––there is a difference. Know how to finesse your charm, skills and interactions with others according to the situations you find yourself in all the time.

2 . Take Care of Yourself

Realize that you are who you see. This can help in small ways to know how others see you. However, the real way to find out how others perceive you is to ask those you trust to tell you. Ask them about how they see your decision-making, your presentation of self to the world, your dress sense, your strength in the face of adversity, and so forth. Listen without judgment and learn about the image you're projecting to others. Then consider what you'd like to keep and what you'd like to change about that perception.

You’ll see what some of these good habits to develop are in the last chapter of the book. Turning them into daily practices will let you feel energetic, be in a good mood, be calm and peaceful, unleash your positivity and creativity, and be productive and get things done.

For now, just know that you should be taking care of yourself more.

Begin by resting properly. A good night’s sleep, taking regular breaks during work, spending some time alone and in silence, and meditating – all these are great ways to get the rest you need.

Most people are keeping themselves busy all day and that makes them stressed out and exhausted. When they get home, they keep thinking about what happened during the day, bring their work and problems with them, or are overwhelmed with what must be done the next day.

That ruins their sleep and they wake up in a bad mood and start the day in a negative way. Such a vicious circle.

3. Trust Within Yourself

Equally, be with others who appreciate who you are. There is nothing more demoralizing than hanging around people who constantly grind you down. Remove yourself from their sphere as much as possible or learn ways to hand back their negativity and patronizing attitudes, showing that you don't need their validation to trust in yourself.

This requires knowing what your values are and what you consider matters in life. You can never take a break from working these things out––be a lifelong learner and allow for your own growth to cause you to think differently about things as you grow older. That's how people mature throughout life, rather than being stuck at the age of 16. However, there is a time and a place to speak your mind––as with "being yourself", don't speak out of turn where it would harm others or harm your own prospects in life. Once again, all things in balance and with an eye to the impact.

If you’ve let yourself down a couple of times, and haven’t taken the steps above to fix your relationship with yourself, you probably don’t trust yourself.

That’s when you don’t try again after failure because you don’t believe you can do it, when you let others take decisions on your behalf, or don’t follow your dreams because you don’t listen to your true desires and don’t trust your guts.

All this is how you show disrespect to your soul, body and mind and get even further from loving yourself.

Things To Stop Doing To Yourself.

Letting your dreams fade away – if you think about something often, it’s worth pursuing it. Don’t give up early on, there’s always another way to get there. Only after you’ve tried all possible options, can you move onto another goal;

Being too critical - instead, you should be your biggest motivator. Don’t be too harsh on yourself, be alright with the mistakes, accept them as part of the journey to success, and go try again or something else;

Lying to others and yourself - that’s an awful thing to do. So many people live in an illusion, don’t ever express their true feelings, pretend to be happy, try to convince themselves that they are doing the right thing, or else. But deep inside, you always know that this is not true. You won’t be satisfied or able to fix yourself and move on peacefully if you don’t put everything on the table and start from there;

Breaking your obligations - when you make a promise to yourself, be it to change an aspect of your lifestyle, stop letting someone treat you badly or go after something you’ve wanted for so long, you should do everything you can to keep it. Otherwise, you’re letting yourself down, which results in lack of self trust and thus you become even unhappier;

Sticking to things you hate doing - it may be your job, spending time with people you don’t want around you, taking up a sport you don’t enjoy or else. None of this is necessary. You can decide to ditch it at any moment, and instead do things you enjoy, which you’re good at, and which bring you results;

Allowing the feeling of regret - that’s a waste of time. Even trying to improve them isn’t the best choice. Because there are so many other things you feel confident in, which come naturally to you and even skills you can master. Take a look at your strengths and work on them even more. That will help you build self-esteem too.